Hmmmmmm,
Yes, that may be food for thought.... perhaps I may have a foul mouth at the moment towards the child's biological father... ignorant I am not... hot-headed.... again, not I....
Upset that he may be given the right to just waltz back into the baby's life... yes, definately. And listen, I have a right to be angry with him. I
have the right to be more than that!!! He's treated the two of us like crap! And he'll get away with it, because he has the "right" to drift in and out of any child's life, as he pleases.
What is in the best interest of my baby? I am pretty sure I know what is... he certainly should have a respectable, reliable and decent role model for a dad.... he does not have any of that in this man.
This baby has the right to be raised in a nurturing environment, with people that are emotionally stable, are predictable and are proper examples of society; so he can develop these character traits himself.
His biological father is not capable of any of this... and unfortunately, wasn't raised in a nurturing environment either. So, and I realize, which is why I am so upset, my baby will be subjected to his biological dad at some point, and (I am sure you wouldn't understand, unless you met the guy) all of his unsavory habits and characteristics will be subjected to his child. That is what I don't want. I just don't want my boy to end up like his dad.
He is uneducated, foul (I am not being menacing, that is just how this man is!) and a drunk. I want so much more for my boy.
I have the best interest for my son. I just don't want him to grow up to be his father. (shudder)
And again, you would have to meet this man, to understand what I am saying, what I am worried about. As I wrote before, I completely get how a child is entitled to a relationship with both parents: my two daughters continue to have one with their dad.... I will not interfere with that one... the one is already asking when she can decide for herself whethor or not she must go... and I DO NOT encourage her to stay away from him...
In this case, however, with his past, his abandoning us, and his temper, his habits... I am upset he'll get his way (yes, even with my baby's best interest in mind, I am still scared of the two of them fostering a relationship).
As for the access... if there is no way around it, then so be it. But he had better watch his p's and q's.... he slips up, drinks and drives, has inappropriate discussions with my son.... and we will be back in court- because I have my son's best interest in mind!
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