Hey,
I am not trying to undermine the ability of most fathers out there. In this case, I truly feel this "man" is emotionally unstable, given how he has behaved towards me, my family, his friends and the nursing staff at the hospital. In fact, I have family coming to the hearing to support me... they were there when I was giving birth to OUR child, and he was busy threatening hospital staff, my family and whoever else. He is an explosive hothead. He drinks - and drives- and most importantly, he abandoned his child that he claimed he wanted so badly. Isn't abandonment an issue here?
I was in a 13 year relationship with the father of my two eldest daughters, and yes, I did finally leave him after a few failed attempts. He gave me the old story of "I'll ruin you, I'll take the kids away from you, I'll keep the house and not move out...." So in the end, I took the girls and we left- he ended up with the house and I got the short end of the stick money-wise. I had very valid reasons for leaving #1 and his daughters see him whenever I take them there- he won't come and get them. He spends very little time with them and he makes them feel guilty - their words, not mine- every chance he gets. He doesn't spend any time with them when they visit him- but they feel obligated to be with him and as much as I think he doesn't deserve them after the way he treated them when we all resided together, I still make sure they are connected- he was in their lives and even though he was an invisible dad to them, they saw him every day of their lives for nearly 13 years. I get that.
What I do not understand is how an ignorant, foul, drunken, hot-headed moron should be allowed the PRIVILEGE to see his son, the son he claimed he wanted so very much, after dumping that same infant weeks after his birth. He hasn't returned ANY of my calls- some of which I even tried filling him in with his son's milestones thus far.....
No, he has been reported to be trying to get his new girlfriend pregnant, so he can have his son..... Of course this is hearsay, but I truly do not doubt the validity of those words, knowing his previous repulsive behaviour.
He left his first wife and his little girl when that baby was a year old, and finally drifted back into her life when she was nearly ten, I believe. He is disgusting with her, drinks and drives with her, and discusses his sex life with her- she is fourteen.
He is a pig. Sorry. End of story. And yes, I was a fool to have even had relations with him, but ONE good thing came of it, and that is MY son. That is how I feel. I doubt very much he wants to be a part of this child's life, while he is procreating with his currant lady-friend. (whom he met while I was pregnant his HIS child, the same child he wanted so badly. Weeks before HIS baby was born, he broke up with me, and then he just stopped coming to see HIS son three weeks after he was born. No tell me, does that sound like a committed father to you?)
So you will all have to excuse me if I am harsh or critical of this MAN, as he has NOT proven himself worthy of my acceptance, nor has he proven himself worthy to be the father of his son.
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