You know your situation enough to know whether to communicate to your ex that the police will be involved if need be to facilitate your access today. On one hand, she could disappear totally to avoid the scene if you told her. On the other hand, she may just allow the child to go if you tell her the police are coming.
It is a tough call. It is NOT up to her to make up a reason to refuse you. There is NO reason for her to unilaterally change the access. Some people have no respect for court orders, they are the ones that need to be shown their place, like your ex.
It isn't your fault for involving the police and potentially causing a scene. It is hers. I would take my chances if I was you and let her know the police will be coming with you to get your child today. Then, you have a double whammy if she refuses. She cannot play dumb that she didn't think you were serious. What is your method of communication? How can you ensure she understands what you are going to do today in writing and KNOW she got it? Otherwise you are stuck with taping a voice mail which is, in my opinion, useless in court.
Whatever you do, even if it is just the series of emails, is to bring copies of them along with the order to the house with you, a set for the police, and a set for your ex.
Whatever you do, don't get all excited when the police are there. You want them on your side, not your ex's. If you are rational and don't blurt things out, or cut people off from talking, it will go a LONG way to help you. And, since you contacted the police, you can get a copy of the Police Report after this incident to keep in your file.
Keep calm, the police, and your child will thank you for it.
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