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Originally Posted by Foredeck
Make sure you record all of this, keep notes. And, I would bring someone with you. If it ever goes to court, it would be good to have a witness to support your story.
And, don't go down to her level, if she's being unreasonable, you can use this against her in court later.
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I agree. If you can have the police with you, that's great. Hopefully you can even get some sort of write-up from the police station stating what happened.
Keep documenting and have witnesses - that's pretty much all you can do while waiting for things to happen in court.
You can put in a motion for contempt of the court order, but all that will happen is that the judge will "suggest that you abide by the court order," and let her go with a slap on the wrist. But at least you'll have it documented.
My only concern with such actions on your ex's part is how often they occur and how they will change the status quo. This is exactly what happened to my husband. All of a sudden, one day out of the blue, my stepson's mom started showing up at the daycare on our scheduled pick-up time, and refusing to hand the child over. It got to the point where there were days when she wouldn't even send the child to daycare on our scheduled pick-up day, and we'd drive 2 hours (one way) to find out the child wasn't even there.
By the time we finally made it to court - you all know how long that takes - the "new" schedule she forced upon us had become the status quo. And with a letter from her family doctor stating the new scheduled worked better for the child (now 20% time with dad instead of previous 40%) and was more beneficial, there was little we could do. Even our argument that this doctor never contacted the child's father to properly investigate how the child was faring in BOTH homes was a moot point. All the judge said was that the child was now used to the new schedule, and according to the mother and her doctor, the child was faring better, therefore the new schedule would remain just as it was forced upon us on the mother's whim (simply because she wanted more child support - the entire table amount - and that's what she got, and more!)
So be careful to not let this happen to you. If this happens once or twice more, file an emergency motion with the court asking for undisturbed or uniterrupted access as per the current court order. We unfortunately waited a little too long, hoping that she'd stop this absurdity, but she never did and as a result of our hope, she accomplished her goal. Don't let your ex accomplish hers.
Good luck, my friend!