to all the dads above.....my heart aches for you all. I know being an ex-wife myself, and having to deal with my ex at the beginning of our separation and eventually divorce, it is extremely stressful for both. But, saying this - one rule that he and I have always lived by is Never to involve the children in our mess. I am a firm believer that we as parents have hurt them enough when their little world gets turned upside down, why make them pay for a choice we made. I am remarried to a wonderful man, who is a father of 2 kids - his exwife has alienated these kids to the point where there is no communication - and when they do come visit, they are sent down to spy on us - and to report back to their mom. I see that all these kids want is to please their mom - and by disrespecting their dad, it pleases her. It has gotten to the point where they have been told that they have to choose their dad, or her - there is intense emotional abuse going on in their home. None of the kids came to our wedding, even though I know they wanted to. The ex-wife has lied about me, their grandparents, even my kids to them. And who is hurting the most - off course their father, but most importantly the kids. They are angry teenagers who up until the summer told me many times how much they loved me. My heart is broken, his heart is broken and now my kids feel they have lost their step-sisters. It blows my mind that one individual could cause so much pain and suffering - and for what? These kids need their dad, and one day I am hopeful they will come around.
I am 100% behind you guys, and my husband is going the same as you all....you men need to stick together.
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