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Originally Posted by Stargate
billiechic, you need to come into the 21st century.
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I am only being defensive because you have said something uncalled for. You implied that I am relying on women's role in history and defending the preferential treatment women get when that is clearly not what I wrote.
Stargate, I agree with you for the most part. There does need to be a major overhaul of both the CS guidelines and the court system. And yes the preferential treatment some women get is based on an outdated opinion that women are better parents. I was only explaining where the bias comes from. But not all of it.
I think that if dads want to take on the parenting role more actively, then they need to do that right from the start, and not try to start when the divorce papers are signed. Maybe they didn't realize what they were missing, maybe they had other responsibilities in the household. It doesn't matter. If men and women are truely equal, then the fathers should be insisting they do the bathing and diaper changing, and the mom's can mow the lawn. They are both capable of all the jobs. It is GREAT that fathers are finally wanting to do these things, but until BOTH parents show the effort to take on an equal share of the parenting duties there will be a bias towards those who actively do them, regardless of whether they are men or women. JMHO.