I will never argue that Mothers are better parents then Fathers.... or that children don't
need both of their parents... and I have never said that one is more valuable than the other.
Every child deserves to know both of their parents... even if they aren't very good parents.
Truth be told, some people just shouldn't have children... ever! If we were all naturally born nurturers, instead of the selfish, vindictive people we are... then there would be no need for divorce lawyers and children's aid societies.
My opinions of the roles of todays men and women are based on my personal life.... I am sure I have my own biases based on my life experiences.
My mother worked throughout my childhood, but I was a stay at home mom until my children were in school full time... and that was a decision that my husband and I made
together...
I wanted very much to be at home with my children. Sure, I could have put them in daycare at 6 weeks old for 12 hours a day and let some stranger raise them, but WE decided that our children were more important than our back account.
I knew going into it that I wasn't going to be an Executive Woman.... I wanted to be a Mommy.
I would never
blame my husband because I haven't moved as far ahead in my career path as he has... that's ridiculous.
We both have the exact same post seondary degrees, but as a result of
our decision for me to stay at home, there is now a
HUGE wage gap between him and I.....
I am about 10 years behind him in seniority and promotions.
We also cannot BOTH work shift work. Daycare in my area isn't available on a 24 hour a day basis.
So WE decided that I would be responsible for the childrens day to day necessities, so that he could go to work, without interference, work flexible shifts, and make the bucks.
Our
work experience is NOT the same, because I didn't "work" for 9 years, so therefore have less "experience".
Mine is a waiting game.... I keep waiting for the kids to get older so that I can focus on a rewarding career... but I'll never catch up to my husband!!!!