Singledad,
Very interesting post. Our situations are completely different, but there is one common thread in them, the ex-wife not having a job, and using that as an excuse to not pay her share and consequently taking a higher percentage of money from their exes earnings. From my experience a man who doesn't have a job is seen as a deadbeat loser, not so a woman.
You are divorced from her, but she is still married to you financially, as long as you are paying her.
Which brings up another observation. A man who pays CS will pay more over the years as he gets raises, bonuses etc., or less (if possible) when falling on hard times, so the husband and his exes finances are linked.
In reality there is a pool of money being split between ex-husband and ex-wife which changes over the course of time. If the ex-wife has new children, that "pool" of money is split between ALL her children, with the "first" child getting a smaller portion as a result of having siblings. Not so if the husband has kids, his money is not "allowed" to be shared equitably between all his children.
In essence "second" kids are, by the nature of how the Guidelines work, subjected to different standards if they live in the CP's home or the NCP's home.
Billm - Your posts are excellent and I see the intended recipient has not answered your question!
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