[stressedby-X]

Thank you both for your input. I will try to fill in a few holes in a nutshell. We were married for fourteen years. He was the good father - coach of all the teams, played all the time with the kids and never missed any of the kids events. His father died. He became depressed (or so I thought) and began drinking alot. In the mean time his doctor treated him for depression.....and with the meds and drinking made him crazy. He started laying in bed all day, missing work etc. Hardly a nice environment for children.

He was removed from the home.

I do have a letter from his employer stating that he is a very valuable employee and they wanted wanted to ensure him that the company will work through his medical issues as long as he was prepared to help himself - obviously he was not. This was in December of 2005. In the note they advise him to remain off of work and stay off until he has a Dr's note with medical approval to return to work. They also offered a revised ROE that could be submitted to Employment Insurance for consideration.

Obviously he did get a return to work letter and went back to work. After seven months he just walked off the job. In three years he has not vigourously sought employment (to my knowledge).

I don't want anything for myself. Agreed to pay him an equalization payment and he could have anything in the house he wanted. He pretty well listed everything on his Financial statement as $0.

The thing is how do I find out whether or not a judge will rule he is disabled? He has not filed (to my knowledge) for Social Assistance and he tells me he is off meds and has not seen a doctor in two years. May still have some alcohol issues.

I cannot find any court rulings to see if alcohol can be considered a disability.

I Hate Cheaters are you sure about that calculation?

I calculated 300 for spousal support after child support is paid.

I made 100K and he makes nothing. I am assuming the judge will impute an income. Maybe maybe not.

The lawyers scare tactics are working. I hate the unknown. The last time we were in court for our settlement conference his lawyer pulled out of his hat my retirement gratuity ( sick days that can be paid out at my retirement if they are not needed). Good thing I went to work all those days when I was under the weather!

I didn't get a feel where the judge was going at the settlement conference, He just told us to get my gratuity evaluated and reamed X about his poor behaviour. My lawyer said he would not be entitled to support but in my opinion did not support this with case law. Really it is in the lawyers interest to keep the clock ticking. So here I am searching for answers.