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Originally Posted by muscle_woman
ok, so we offered her the $7500...she says she needs to run it by her lawyer and will get back to us? Oh man...sooo frustrating and discouraging!
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Mostly unrelated venting ahead.....
That is what really bugs me about some people (including my ex) - how hard is it to know if something is fair or not, especially after having considered it for a while? What the hell does the lawyer have to do with it? Every time my ex goes to her lawyer, to run something by her that my ex herself says is fair, that we finally worked out, my ex comes back with a load of crap that does not make any sense, crap that we decided was crap a year ago! But always has the same theme, that I pay more, despite what was decided by us was totally fair and based on considering all factors and using simple math.
I can't figure out if it is a lack of ability to understand (how hard is addition and dividing by 2 anyway?), or simply anger, jealousy, and resentment. Anyways - judging from personal experience, lawyers are a huge problem because their goal is not to find a fair solution for thier client, but to simply create billable hours, and to get as much money for their client as possible - this is the professional that my ex is paying hundreds of dollars an hour to represent her - hired by someone that once pleged to love and honour me forever and created a family with me. I reluctantly hired a lawyer after my ex continued with hers and refused many requests for mediation. I keep him under control, have only used him a few hours for advice, and I do not let him contact my ex or her lawyer - I represent myself thanks. I have seen the letters my ex's lawyers (she is on her second lawyer) sent to me, and I would not wish that on the mother of my children. The letters don't make sense, and are impersonal and attacking. What a hateful way to end a relationship. Couples who need lawyers to solve things have at least one person that is unreasonable.