Thanks for the suggestions! Yes, Grace, $10,000 and at this point, nothing current in the way of a court order and no financial disclosure. We've had 2 (or 3?) interim interim orders in place, but only for a month at a time, and our last order 'ran out' by the end of October. To be fair to my lawyer, some of the added expense was my doing; I wouldn't agree to an interim interim consent order proposed by the opposing lawyer in that my ex insisted on transporting the kids in his big, bad, muscle truck, in the front seat. He told me flat-out that he bought that particular truck following our separation (with no rear seat) "just to pi$$ you off", because he knew that I felt children that young should always be in a rear seat. So, knowing that he was a reckless driver, and suspecting he was driving drunk as well, AND knowing that he'd put some sort of computer chip into the truck that gave him unnecessary extra horsepower, I wouldn't agree to him transporting them in that truck. I should add that he had two other trucks with back seats at his disposal at that time, but refused to use either one, just because I wanted him to. We went before a judge on that issue, and although she sided with him in judgement, she said she didn't want to (there is no legislation prohibiting him from doing so), but said at least three times throughout the proceedings that she thought he was STUPID for taking unnecessary risks with his kids, and that if he gave a damn about them, he'd change his position. So anyway, aside from that, I've just gone on the lawyer's advice and suggestion. Now the opposing lawyer is saying they want access in the form of a court order, and my lawyer says that my ex is deliberately avoiding the financial disclosure to push my legal fees higher. He also says that for us to push the issue would likely only result in costing me more money for very little benefit; that I already know his income details (which my ex is also saying; makes me wonder what all he's hiding), so why bother with the expense of filing a notice of motion forcing the disclosure. Does that sound reasonable? Knowing my ex, he wouldn't do the disclosure, even after a notice of motion is filed, and my lawyer would indeed have to pursue it in court, so it would be costly, right? I'm very confused, and don't really know from one day to the next if my lawyer is really on my side or not, or if I'm just overly suspicious of everything because of the damage this relationship has done.
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