In most interim or general settlement orders, the language used in reference to long weekends usually refers to weekends and holidays. Holidays are usually split equally between the parents on a even/odd year switch.
As a custodial parent,I would prefer that the pick-up time on long weekends is bumped up an hour so my daughter can smoothly settle back into the routine as it's on a school night. Unfortunatly, my divorce was extremely difficult and I decided to forego arguing over the small stuff
Her own lawyer will tell her the court will not back her on this issue.
Why not suggest having the kids back on the holiday Monday at 4 or 5 p.m. in order to facilitate a smoother school night routine?
If she turns that down and you do go to court over it, you will appear to be considerate with the kids best interests in mind. If she accepts this point, it may set a precedent with your negotiations.
My daughter has an extremely tough time settling in after an access weekend. Unlike many other hands on parents who co-parent, her father still hasn't quite got the hang of it. Divorce is difficult for kids as it is without adding the difficulty of transferring from one house to another . Kids who come home after a weekend away, have to finish homework,have showers,get their stuff together for school and decompress. Having enough time on Sunday or Monday is really important for them. As they get older and more independent, the access schedule can change and become more flexible.
The best of luck, let us know how it works out.
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