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Old 10-11-2017, 01:26 PM
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Originally Posted by LovingFather32 View Post
For the record, I dont think Angie's a devil. I just think she's here to vilify her ex and to recruit others to join her in the bashfest. I dont hate her and I dont think she's a bad person. In fact her ex kind of sounds like mine in a way (haircuts, etc). I do believe she needs to relax a bit and not make everything a catatrophe.
That's the worst part about being in a relationship with a controlling unreasonable person (I'll use those adjectives instead of 'd-----d' or 'c-----b' because I prefer descriptors to insults). You get conditioned to view every request as a demand with an ulterior motive, because that's usually exactly what they are. But it makes it challenging to view a normal, reasonable request without suspicion, and, yes, catastrophizing.

That's why it's a good thing for people to be able to come here with threads like "My ex wants X - what does it mean??" and get a variety of responses and insights. Let's not scare them off.