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Old 08-25-2017, 09:24 AM
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I have responded with a request for OCL as things are extremely complicated. She is doing everything she can to avoid the OCL and the possibility of an 'interests of the child' assessment
To be frank. OCL will not be a good thing for you as a parent. OCL is not magical and frankly under qualified. Furthermore, often the more lighter approach of a interests assessment with a mediator is faster, better, cheaper and creates less conflict at times if you HAVE TO have an assessment.

Section 30 and OCL are a waste of time.

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OP position is that the principle matter should be their wishes alone and wants our daughters counselor to report on the wishes of our daughters (D10 and D13) to determine the best go forward schedule.
Actually, this is a good recommendation. But, generally they won't comment on it. You should ask the counsellor for a recommendation for someone out of the practice that can do the assessment.

The children are too old to deal with OCL or a Section 30. The 13 year old will be heard by the court and by the time it makes trial the child will be 14+... and the game changes.

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There is signifcant concern about the incosistencies in both behaviour and what is expressed byour daughters when with her mom (as expressed by myself, CAS and OP's own family). And an assessment would serve to shed light on that nd a number of other concerns.
No it won't. It will inflame conflict significantly.

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My question, though, is primarily procedural:

I do not want our daughters role of autonomous support to be undermined by 'reporting' what our daughters say. It is a piece of information though (even if influenced)
See my recommendation above.

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Is it accurate that, as part of any process undertaken by the OCL, information may be obtained from their counselor in such a manner where the integrity of the relationship between the children and the counselor can be maintained?
Actually, at those ages both children (if deemed by the medical practitioner) are old enough to lock those records so neither parent nor the court can obtain the records. There is no age of consent. Be very careful with this. A smart 13 year old can lock you out. I have assisted 11 year old children in locking their medical records from nosy parents and OCL investigators. One call to the Kids Help Line and the kid will be armed with all the info on their rights about their medical records.

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I would like that to be part of my response, but I'm not sure if it is accurate.
OCL is a waste of time, money and will only create conflict.
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