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Old 06-02-2017, 11:06 AM
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Originally Posted by trinton View Post
You've essentially agreed that tutoring is necessary. Of course, this does not imply that you've agreed the tutor she has chosen is necessary nor does it imply that you must pay - she did not discuss and you did not agree.



Tutoring is for educational purposes.



Then clearly that clause was regarding that specific activity - not tutoring.



Absolutely. And refuse to pay for things that they don't enjoy, is not necessary for them, or is not benefiting them.




Yes. And how they adjust in the early years is likely going to effect them in their teen and adult years.
I still cant figure out how to break this in to different quotes..

Yes tutoring is necessary. My 13 year old has dyslexia, my 12 year old is reading at a grade 2 level and my 9 year old can't spell simple words. My ex is also unable to put together a proper sentence. I help them when they are with me and work on it but I can only do so much. I would be more than happy to contribute to a tutor but not this one. She is unqualified for their issues, she does all their work for them and in 2 years there has been no improvements. I told the exact same thing to the judge and he told her if she wants me to pay for it then we have to agree on the tutor otherwise she can continue with this one and pay for her herself.

I will not agree nor pay for activities they do not like. My ex has gotten over that one now and just lets me register/pay for them. Like I said, I am ok with that. My daughter cheers and is in love with it, my son plays hockey and the other one plays soccer. (I also have my wife's daughter that figure skates competitively and her bio dad doesn't pay his support) Are they cheap? Nope but I work my tail off so they can do it and I don't bother asking for my ex to help. She has been on welfare for 12 years now and I don't expect that to change anytime soon.

My only concern is I don't want to be unable to do anything all summer because she wants her tutor to come to my house 3 days a week. Again, I would agree no problem if the tutor actually helped them but she does not.
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