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Old 05-03-2017, 02:19 PM
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Originally Posted by trinton View Post
there are very pleasant single moms out there but there is always the ones that badmouths and aleinates dad and screws around with his access and just uses him for money.

why do some single moms act in this way? what motivates them to do so? what makes them feel they own you and your life?

i personally think it's a power thing by controlling women. in my case. former spouse has asked our kid who the boss is at an exchange after obtaining sole custody.

I just dont understand.. are they just simple trashy people who hve the nerves to screw over other peoples lives in attempts to boost their self esteem? is it a personality disorder? do they hate you that much that they want your kids to also hate you? is it maybe a revenge thing? do they just simple enjoy having their former partner or spouse under their thumb? are they psychopaths ? what's wrong with these specific single moms?
There's no doubt that this does happen more with women. I think its simply because traditionally women had more ownership over child rearing. In addition, they carry and bear the children, which unfortunately, often gives them the misconception that their stake with regard to parenting rights is somehow stronger or more valid.

However it does go both ways...and that's why these thread titles annoy me. My very male ex committed all of these acts that you describe and it was because he was (and remains) extremely angry that I had the nerve to divorce him. In addition, how dare I find happiness with someone else that my kids really like.

In divorces, its very common that one person just really never gets over it and that bitterness drags on for the rest of their lives and they use the kids to get their version of revenge.

Good news (kinda) does it backfire on the offending parent. My case is a prime example of that.
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