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Old 03-24-2017, 08:28 PM
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Originally Posted by trinton View Post
I've been wanting to talk to you about this. I've noticed in a lot of threads where mom's are seeking support, you give it to them biasedly. I've also noticed in a lot of my threads you're somewhat anti-men. I understand you're not the happiest camper with what your ex did to you but that doesn't necessarily mean that all men are the same.

I don't obsess over anything. I'm a very cautious person. I do know how to relax. But parents don't just relax when their child is hurting. I'm already doing personal counselling. Been doing it for a while. I have made tons and tons of sacrifices and changes in my life for my daughter, and will continue to do so.

If you would be more supportive of me, I would appreciate that. Otherwise, if you're going to jump on that "he just wants more time to reduce his child support" bang-wagon, then I'll likely need to put you on the ignore list. I'm not a big fan of people who jump to conclusions like that. Should I start accusing every-mother that comes on here of just wanting custody or primary access just to win and seek revenge just because they asked for child support and/or spousal support?

I would I interpret Arabian's comments as actually trying to be supportive of you. You can tell she thinks about what to say before saying it. I believe she calls it like she sees it, man or woman. You don't have to agree with everyone here. I think it is consuming you too. I can literally feel the hurt you are going through in every post and do feel badly for you.
I think Arabian and others are trying to tell you that like it or not, your situation is what it is for now (access parent) and you need to try to be more positive and focus on the good things you have right now. Negativity often bleeds through into all areas of one's life, even the ability to properly parent. You may not even realize. Your child may even sense it. It's f'n stressful, I know!! You need an off button though. Don't post so much. Find an outlet. Exercise? Just keep your eye on the goal but try not to obsess about the situation you're in so much.

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