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Old 02-10-2017, 02:48 PM
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Originally Posted by Asphenaz View Post
My son is tired of being dragged to walk-ins, doctors, specialist. He misses 2-3 days a month of school. He is not sick, but she needs him to be. (part of her mental disorder ) My daughter is tired of listening to ex's negative comments about me to her friends.
My understanding is that the son is 12.5? Well, your son simply needs to go see the family practitioner, explain his issue and ask that he be granted control over his medical well being. Basically, you son, under law, can prevent BOTH of you from accessing his medical records. All he needs is for his family practitioner to agree. Simple and done all the time. That way he gets to make the medical decisions.

Generally, unless the child has a significant developmental disability this will be granted. When your son is almost 13 why would you fight over this stuff and not empower your son to make his own decisions about his health. You may not have know this but, there is NO LAW that gives parents direct control over their children's medical decisions. Children can ask at any age and it is left up to the clinician to make the determination.

If you son called the Kids Help Phone he can get the right advice on how to do this.

Furthermore, what you are describing may be a very complicated form of factitious disorder by proxy. Your son is old enough to express his own concerns directly to clinicians without parents being present. In fact, if the parent always want to be present this should be a WARNING SIGN to the clinician that something is up.

Generally, doctors want to meet with kids of this age without the parents present. So, it wouldn't be odd for your son to ask you both to leave any clinical encounter so he can discuss his possibly factitious medical condition.

Often, many things can be settled without the court's intervention. Your son is old enough to express to the clinician and make his own decisions about his health and wellbeing. You should encourage him to do this.

Good Luck!
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