If the OSAP covers his costs, then the courts would ask him why he hasn't obtained or tried to obtain a part time job to help ease him though the year without being so tight. The courts want to know that the child has exhausted all avenues of support, IE OSAP, bursaries, scholarships and yes employment.
As I see it, he's covered for his basic costs, but that there is little room for "extras". For him to wan to be "comfortable or kept at th level he has grown accustomed while in th earlier years, it's basically a case of "welcome to adulthood"!!!! Wanting and needing have become two very different entities and it's time that he learns to budget and understand the value of the dollar and startr pulling up his socks and helping wh=ith "his" costs.
My son is in college, and has a full course load, and is employed part time to help cover the extras that OSAP and other funding cannot. If he wants the latest clothing or video games, I'm done covering my share; if he wants the extras he's going to earn the money to cover them. I made sure he had a place to live, school fees/books/etc covered and food to eat. Anything above the basics is his responsibility, as it should be, he's an adult now.
The fact that you are seperated doesn't change his position coming into his own. There is a time to cut the purse strings. Personally if you can afford to help him out with the extras I think the money should go to him directly, not the ex. Period!
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