I don't think there is a question that in long term marriages it would be reasonable for spousal support to be paid.
But I'm wondering would having an automatic shared custody possibly reduce the prevelance of spousal support orders...that if both parents were equally responsible for care of the children..drop offs and pick ups from school etc..giving both parents an equal playing field to pursue jobs without some of the limitations and time constraints being the CP sometimes has..and of course I know many of you already practise this or wish you could but are not given the oppurtunitiy. I know in my situation for all intents and purposes I'm a single parent..except every other weekend..I do all the school activites, chauferring to after school activities etc..
I think all to often kids are used as leverage..' I can't work or take some classes because I need to stay home with the kids etc..' I'm not saying its easy..its not.. but if thats the situation....as I mentioned earlier if your spouse had passed away what would you do..and why not do it now..why assume that you 'should' be able to rely on anyone but yourself to see you through..perhaps that is harsh but I think a lot of people would be far happier if they realized the only person responsible for your happiness and success is yourself. Why relinquish control to another person who most definitly does not have your best interest at heart.
I feel society on whole is lacking a whole lot of personal responsibility..but is that something you can really legislate? Would mandatory pre-nups help in any way..I think marriage is the only contract in the wolrd you sign without addressing the posibility of not meeting your obligation and the consequences that you may incur as such.
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