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Old 09-01-2012, 12:05 PM
Martin Onza Martin Onza is offline
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Hi, new to the forum, lots of informtion here that is useful and appreciated.

A little about myself; I've been married for nearly 10 years, 2 kids 6 & 8 and my wife has been a stay at home mom for the last year. I've been the type of guy who from an early age said that I would never marry or have kids. When I met my wife at 32 that all changed. I fell in love and we had our kids...but there is a part of me that always is eating at me, wanting to be single and alone. I've tried to fight it and thought I overcame it, but for the last 11 years, i've realized it's always been there. Now, for some reason it's come back 10 fold and I am realizing that I love my wife, but that I do not love her the way she needs to be loved in a meaningful relatonship.

So, I am attending counseling, to try and see what is wrong with me, but in the end, I know what's wrong and what it is I want/need and it scares me to hurt the ones I love.

That being said, I'm looking at guidance as to what the appropriate steps are to seperate.
- We own a house, I read alot that if seperating, not to move out until an agreement is reached, may I ask why?
- Unfortunately, we have more debt than assets, how do we go about that?
- She has equal pension compared to me, does that come into play?
- Since she was off for one year, how does spousal support if any?
- If we agree to 50/50 child care, do I owe her child support?

That's about it for now, I thank everyone in advance for their help, direction and guidance.