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Have you found any behavioural issues with your child? Any backlash as a result of the living arrangements? Is your child of an age that they understand?
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With me the regime has been going on for over 6 years. I seem to recall that it took about a month for adjustment, ie: new schedule and lots of communication between mom and dad and our child. I never noticed any behavioral issues and historically never really had any problems.
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We have tried to keep everything positive all the way along to ensure that they know that no matter what mommy and daddy love them and will never stop. They will spend lots of time with both of us. We spend every special occasion (birthdays etc) together as a family (for the kids sake). These were things we told them when we separated and as long as we follow through with our promises, all should be ok.
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I think that is a fantastic idea and I have practiced the same for our child's birthdays and recently grade 8 graduation.
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Sorry for the long winded message. In short, my concern is how the kids will fare at the end of day, and if you have seen or know first hand of negative results of child/ren moving back and forth.
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I can speak of nothing negative about the arrangement that I have. The only thing a few times our son hit both parents up for an allowance at same time - so we communicate on this as well.
One thing we realized that we are not out to compete against one another as parents. If I purchase anything for our child on my own, I will usually advise his mother so that both parents don't go out and buy same.
I believe the pros outweigh the cons in this arrangement, as our child has had the same benefit as intact families - having both parents that desired to be involved in their life.
The cons are would your child be happy only seeing one parent perhaps 4 - days a month.
lv