Thanks LV!
You are absolutely right of course, I did mean reply not response. In regards to the allowance thing, it was initially started as a means of encouragement for the son to pull his weight around their house and be more co-operative with his mother...she has a hard time with disipline and structure. We were hoping the allowance would be a positive reinforcement. Only to find out she hasn't been handing it over to the child....so we figured the savings account a good idea, and show him the value of saving, and of course making sure *he* actually gets the money.
And we learned pretty quickly not to engage her in any way, shape or form, thats just not an arguement anyone could win as both parties would have to be thinking logically and rationally..I think she just likes to yell. It would almost be funny if I didn't know their son was witnessing her outbursts. We keep telling her if she won't talk calmly and rationally we will have to hang up the phone..which we end up having to do anyways....
It is all very sad and at the expense of a child..how do you fight someone who is so irrational and not above lying to get what they want...and who knows what she is telling him on a daily basis...ugh
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